May 21, 2024 /

Death & Mourning

End of Life Decisions

The journey of life is one of wonder and joy, as well as frustration and grief. Helping people cope with the some of life’s harder moments is one of Judaism’s greatest gifts. Often, we can feel overwhelmed or alone when dealing with death, a medical illness, or difficulties when dealing with a loved one’s care. Below are some resources that are designed to help you navigate through some of these moments. Please don’t consider this to be the extent of the care we wish to help you with, rather a starting point. When confronted with life’s difficulties, please let our clergy know so that we may be able to help you as best we can.

The Temple also has other resources at your disposal such as our Guide to Families in Mourning.

When filling out your Advance Directives you should consult both your doctor and your rabbi and you may also leave a copy of your Advance Directives and Health Care Proxy Directive with the rabbi.

When a Loved One Has Died

Our community is at its strongest when we show up for each other — not only in times of joy, but also in times of sadness, loss, and tragedy. If you are grieving, we want to support you.

Dealing with the death of a loved one is an emotionally challenging event that often feels overwhelming. Judaism provides us ancient traditions, rituals, and liturgy that can bring us consolation. Our clergy are honored to provide comfort and advice regarding end-of-life decisions, logistics, and funerals.

Our clergy visit and support families in hospitals, hospice care, and at home. If a death is imminent, please contact us at (732) 545-6484 or email the office so that a member of our team can connect you with our clergy.


Shiva is a time when the community can join together to support those in mourning. For Anshe Emeth shiva customs, please see our Shivah Guide.


Yahrzeits (anniversaries of the deaths of loved ones) are commemorated on Friday evenings. A yahrzeit notice is published in our monthly Temple bulletin.